![]() ![]() My whole game is predicated on projecting my most desirable self, and not treating my transness as an obstacle. I intended to show them something I've learned over time-that if you treat being trans like it's a source of shame, then that's how your date will feel, too. I'm partnered and not really looking, but since my relationship isn't exclusive, Alok and Jacob convinced me to open a Tinder account so I could demonstrate IRL the maneuvers I'd long touted. I've seen Alok and Jacob wade through crushes and ambiguous interactions, live-texted flirtatious lines to help them reel those crushes in, and coached them to project insouciant confidence so the cuties would come back for more. ![]() ![]() Dating among nonbinary femmes is even trickier, as the vast majority of people, even queer ones, imagine themselves as dating men or women exclusively, so nonbinary folks can complicate how others view one's sexuality. Trans dating is tricky, because you have to deal with prejudice on top of all the usual insecurities around wanting to be as attractive as possible for a potential mate. It's a reliable source of ennui in our group chats, and as the elder among my nonbinary pals, I've been giving Jacob and Alok dating advice for weeks. And nobody is more puzzled than me as to why such obvious catches are having dating problems when so many clamor for their attention. But if you think all that would land them a date, you'd be wrong. ![]()
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